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My Thoughts on Kneeling

This isn’t a political statement, so please don’t react to it as such.

In today’s negative climate, I think we’re too quick to assume that a person’s out-of-the-ordinary action is intended to be an insult to us personally. Take kneeling at the National Anthem, for example.

I don’t pretend to know the motivation of each person doing that, but I do know why some people kneel. They look at kneeling from its historical perspective: showing respect (as to a king or queen); showing devotion, esteem, or reverence (God); as a form of supplication ( God, marriage proposal, begging); mourning, sadness, vulnerability. If this is a person’s motivation, what’s wrong with it? Is it okay to kneel before our flag to show it honor and respect? To kneel during the National Anthem to show sadness at perceived wrongs going on in our country? Possibly even to kneel in silent prayer for the good of our country and its people?

To some people, could kneeling, especially with a hand over the heart and bare heads, actually be positive?

Maybe we’d be better off fighting the true evils that divide us rather than reading people’s minds and attacking them for actions that express what they’re feeling while doing no harm to anyone.

Family Relationships

Family is the most complicated relationship on earth.  They’re the people we most love, yet the people who irritate us the most.  And they’re right there at home, handy for us to take out our rotten day on.  Sociologists say that how we treat each other in our family reflects how we treat everyone else.  If we’re loving and forgiving within our family, we’ll likely extend that not only to our friends but into our attitude toward strangers across the country and in other hemispheres.  If we’re ready to fight within our family, we’re eager to get into conflicts and wars elsewhere.  You get the idea.  Then, what small step can you take, what little change in your patience, attitude, or treatment of family members? Only you will know the answer.  Look at your family and yourself and decide.  The relationship with your family–and with others–is worth the effort.

MLK Day–for Children

Today is Martin Luther King., Jr. Day. What’s important is to focus on what he stood for: peace, equality, and justice.

Let’s start with our children. Encourage them to talk instead of fighting when they find themselves in uncomfortable situations. Ask if they’ve been picked on or have seen other children being picked on, and explore the topic of bullying. When a child does something that physically or emotionally harms another child, get him to put himself in that child’s place to experience what she feels, and decide together what positive action, not punishment, is appropriate to heal the situation.

Read children’s books together featuring a person of another culture and talk about the similarities between the character’s life and their life. Engage them in a game that involves taking turns and sharing, adding a penalty rule for arguing and bonus points for compromising and working out differences.

n short, help your kids think and act in ways that help bring about the world MLK worked toward–one of peace and compassion.

Be a Team Player

One of the least-loving places we visit is where our child’s team competes.  Be it soccer or softball, you’ve sat in the stands, cringing when a parent cusses at the referee or some adult encourages fighting or intentional injury, either directly or indirectly by non-verbal approval when it happens.  This can be an opportunity for you to be a good example to your child, the teams, and the adults who aren’t acting like good role models.

There are many things you can do.  Ask that man not to use ethnic slurs around your kids.  Find something during the game to compliment the small, awkward child on the team.

If your child acts with violence, make sure your language (body and verbal) clearly indicates your disapproval.  In front of other adults and the team, express your appreciation to the referee for his time and fairness.  When you leave, have your child help you dispose of your family’s trash, plus what was left by people around you.  Keep your eyes, ears, and heart open; you’ll find ways to be an example that your kids can look up to.

I’m Taking this to Heart

Today’s Thursday Thought is something I’ve really been trying to take to heart ever since I realized that I spend a lot of time with a clenched stomach and urge to fight back.

 

America, Fight and Be Inspired

This short video was for 4th of July, but, with all the bad stuff happening right now, I needed it today.  There’s so much violence in our country, and other forms of man’s inhumanity to man, that we’re forgetting a basic fact: we are all  Americans.  And, despite evil deeds by a minority of us, we have a lot to be proud of.  Most important, together, we can unite and fight and defeat the evil that’s among us.

Watch this video of long-time actors, many of whom are no longer with us, as they ask God to bless America. Be inspired and revitalized.

[Thanks to Jim Knudsen for sending this to me.]

Debatable Entertainment

I watched the whole Democratic debate!  I wasn’t able to get through any more than an hour of the Republican debate.  What was the difference for me?  With the Republicans, I lost patience with rudeness, name-calling, ethnic/sexist comments, and basic back-alley fghting.  I was learning the candidates’ personalities but not their stands, plans, and views (except, of course, that all democrats–especially Hillary Clinton–are unintelligent, evil demons).

The Democrats were far different.  They showed respect for one another, even when they had a direct-confrontation disagreement. They attempted to stay on-topic most of the time.  They showed a friendly rivalry.  Actually, to me, they seemed like people who wanted to win us over with what they felt are their strengths, not entertain us with an episode of “Political Tuesday-Night Fights.”

The elections are far enough away to allow time to win the minds and hearts of voters.  But unless the Republican candidates stop acting like spoiled, unruly children, this voter won’t bother trying to listen to them any longer.

Even The Donald is no longer entertaining.

 

G.B. Shaw Knows his Dogs

Here’s a Thursday Thought from George Bernard Shaw:

“A Native American elder once described his own inner struggles in this manner: Inside of me there are two dogs. One of the dogs is mean and evil. The other dog is good. The mean dog fights the good dog all the time. When asked which dog wins, he reflected for a moment and replied, The one I feed the most.”

‘Nuff said……

 

 

Pit Bulls

My grand-dogs are pit bulls.  That’s probably what has led me to question inborn evil in the breed.  They get all the bad press.  Admittedly, many truly are vicious and unpredictable, thanks to humans who’ve trained previous generations to fight.  Yet, humans used to consider the pit a dog people admired, and they were often thought of as the perfect companion for children.

I found an interesting article  “10 Things You Never Knew About Pit Bulls.”  It tells some history of the breed (including serving in the military), interesting facts (like how likely it is you’ll be killed by one), and what happens to those who end up in shelters.  Go to www.care2.com/greenliving/10-things-you-never-knew-about-pit-bulls.html and read for yourself.

 

Photo

[One of my grand-dogs cuddling my grand-dog-to-be.]