Tag Archive for abuse

NFL to Uphold the Law?

I see it coming.  As the NFL formulates a policy on domestic abuse they’re holding back on punishment on one player (soon, I bet, to be many) under the guise of due process.  If a player hasn’t been convicted of a crime yet, how can we punish him, they argue.  No matter if he’s admitted it or if the incident is caught on tape so he can’t deny it.

Sounds to me like a nifty way to keep income-producing team members on the field.  What’s so cleaver about this stance is that abused women often drop the charges or never file them to begin with, believing that their abuser is contrite and will never do it again. Also, these guys are making a ton of money when they play.  How hard would it be to convince a vulnerable woman not to file a complaint, pointing out that there would be far less money for her and the children if he were banned from the game?  Would she be willing to chance her children’s future, or would she figure that she could tough it out and have some security for them and herself in a divorce settlement if it happened again?

If a complaint is never filed, or if the victim is a witness for the defense, how many convictions will there be?  And, without a conviction, the NFL could slap the player on the wrist and send him out to play as if nothing ever happened.

I’ll be watching the policy-formation process closely, hoping that the NFL will learn that abuse of another human being really is at least as important as the game-affecting drug offenses that they do punish.

 

 

How to Promote Spousal Abuse

Here’s a recipe for promoting spousal abuse and other violent personal crimes: Recruit people for sports like football and boxing or induct them into the military.  Then spend the entire time you have them training them to fight, attack, do physical harm, and perform other acts of extreme violence.   Focus on harming their opponent, who is an enemy to be defeated at all cost.  Mold them into fighting machines whose objective is to win.

When you’re successful, don’t be shocked when the violence they’re trained for and live with daily spills into their private lives.  If you don’t want that to happen, maybe you should modify the training.

 

 

 

OK to Abuse Military Women

It’s okay to abuse women in the military.  That’s the attitude I get out of recent statistics from the Department of Veterans Affairs records looking at women returning from duty in Afghanistan and Iraq: one fifth of them experienced sexual trauma, as measured by screening tests.  And the V.A. admits that there are very likely more, since so many women, uncomfortable with the V.A., don’t seek treatment there and, therefore, are not counted in the statistics.

Of course, many assaults aren’t reported.  Would you, knowing that the people you report to you (above you in rank) will be skeptical or that you might face retaliation?  How will your career be affected? is a reasonable—and common—question victims ask  themselves.

For a clearer explanation of what these women face, read the Center for Public Integrity article at http://www.publicintegrity.org/2013/09/05/13317/one-fifth-female-veterans-iraq-afghanistan-show-signs-sexual-trauma.

Then urge your lawmakers to do something about it by cosponsoring H.R. 1593, the STOP Act. (A quick, easy way to do so is through the American Association of University Women’s site–just click on http://salsa4.salsalabs.com/o/50796/p/dia/action/public/index.sjs?action_KEY=8324.)

Cheating the Elderly

“Last Will and Embezzlement”—that’s a film worth watching.  It describes the financial exploitation of the elderly.  The problem is widespread and can happen to anyone, even Mickey Rooney, and it is perpetrated by cleaver strangers, close friends, and “loving” relatives.  Yet, such abuse is often not reported.  Even when it is reported, prosecution is difficult—IF the legal system will even bother to prosecute.  This eye-opening documentary presents several cases, giving us an idea of what to watch out for with our loved ones.  You can find the 2012 film on Netflix and probably elsewhere.  If you have elderly friends or relatives, or if you’re aging (we’ll ALL get there), it’s worth the 1 hour 22 minutes you’ll spend watching it. (See the trailer at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WJCDQpqHPEQ.)