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It’s a Boy! The Future of Children

As we greet the new royal child, let’s think about how we can protect ALL the children of the world.  This little Royal will never face hunger, homelessness, exploitation, or death by diseases that are virtually unknown in most of the world.  They won’t have to work long hours in the field before even their tenth birthday to help support their families.  For a certainty, they will have the opportunity for a first-rate education and be able to pass on their good fortune to their own children.

Not all babies are born into that world.  Many, many face abject poverty, malnutrition, and illiteracy.  Those who do survive to have families of their own will pass those conditions on to their children as their only possible legacy.

Those of us who are in a position to do something about the futures of these children must actually do something.  If we have the means, we can donate funds to organizations, here and abroad, that fight poverty, feed the hungry, and educate all the children.  We can volunteer as baby-rockers in at-risk hospital nurseries; aides for teachers of limited-English-speaking classes; tutors for underachieving students or those locked away at Juvenile Hall.  We can visit a museum, art gallery, zoo, tech museum, or the like, taking with us a child of parents struggling to find jobs or working several jobs to meet the bills.  We can invite a latch-key child to help make a double batch of cookies or casserole, and send it home with the young cook to show off to the family.  We can do…a million little things that will make a difference in a young life, things that will make a lasting impression, build his or her self-esteem, teach a concept or a skill, and, therefore, provide a step toward a better life than the child might have had.

After all, isn’t each child a royal child?

A Birthday and a Warning

Thirty years ago today a British computer scientist submitted a proposal that formed the basis for today’s World Wide Web, making today the Web’s 3oth birthday. It’s a marvelous invention, but one that we must protect our children from. Consider these scenarios:

A kid you know is complaining about mean messages about him on Twitter, an embarrassing picture of him on Facebook, a humiliating profile that popped up on another site, a rumor about him sent out on all his friends’ email or texts.  All of these are examples of cyber bullying, and none of it is harmless fun that will just fade away.  In fact, kids who are victims of cyber bullying tend to have life changes: cut classes, use drugs and alcohol, do poorly in school, become unhealthy (physically and emotionally), and be victims of in-person bullying. 

All adults in a youngster’s life need to be vigilant to guard against this.  We must keep aware of what our kids are doing online, and that includes the Internet, social sites, emails, and texting.  We must talk with our kids about what goes on in cyber-space, set rules, and monitor adherence to those rules.   All schools have such rules, and we must make sure that we and our kids are familiar with them.  Yes, the kids will complain.  But—and here’s what’s important—they’ll be safe.

Inviting Childhood Disease

Measles can harm a person for life, and it’s staging a comeback from 20000, when the disease was declared eliminated in the U.S.  2018 was bad, with 349 cases in the U.S.  It was the second worst year for that disease in twenty years. Mainly because so many parents refuse to vaccinate their children.  Last year, there were outbreaks in the 25 states that have communities of anti-vaccination communities.

Again and again scientific proof has been presented that the vaccine is NOT harmful and DOES protect our children. It also protects infants under 12 months and people with health issues, like cancer, who don’t have the option of getting vaccinated. Yet measles spreads so easily–you can get it by entering a room or touching a surface within a couple of hours after an infected person has  done so.

Learn more by reading  Measles was no big deal — until my daughter caught it.

Death Okay for Mentally Ill?

What’s the big deal about executing people? If they killed someone, isn’t it their own fault that they’ll die for it?

The answer depends on whether you think childhood trauma, brain injury, intellectual disabilities,, and serious mental illness–or a combination of these factors– is the offender’s fault or choice. Did 18 people in the U.S. die at the hands of the state in 2018 because the crimes they committed were influenced by something not in their control? It’s something to consider when we mark our ballots on the issue of the death penalty. Take a look at this chart:

Screen Time–Report

People (especially parents and their kids) go back and forth on how much screen time (including phones) is healthy for kids. The National Institute of Health followed 11,000 subjects age 9/10 into adulthood. It was a landmark study, costing $300 million and spanning many years.  Here is some of what they reported:

When the child has spent 7 or more hours a day of screen time, their cerebral cortex, which is the area of the brain that processes sensory information, shows premature thinning. With 2 or more hours a day they were less successful on thinking and language tests. In other words, it seems that screen time is changing our children’s brains.

Granted, this is only a preliminary study. They’re doing more research to determine a solid cause/effect relationship, if there is one, as data seems to indicate right now. Even so, I think it makes sense for us to be aware of it and be on the safe side by following guidelines set by the American Academy of Pediatrics. The Academy suggests no screen time at all for 18 – 24 months. Then, for age 2 – 5, no more than an hour a day, but of high quality programming that you watch with your child. Sounds like a reasonable precaution to me.

To Be InSIGHTful

I ask you to read this story in two ways–literal and symbolic. I think it speaks to the fact we miss a lot by spend so much of our time with closed eyes, figuratively. I believe in eyes wide open, to take in the beauty of our surroundings and the people in it.  (Story is from https://www.livin3.com/5-motivational-and-inspiring-short-stories.)

A 24 year old boy seeing out from the train’s window shouted…

“Dad, look the trees are going behind!”

Dad smiled and a young couple sitting nearby, looked at the 24 year old’s childish behavior with pity, suddenly he again exclaimed…

Dad, look the clouds are running with us!”

The couple couldn’t resist and said to the old man…

“Why don’t you take your son to a good doctor?” The old man smiled and said…“I did and we are just coming from the hospital, my son was blind from birth, he just got his eyes today.”

Have a beautiful, inSIGHTful day!

 

I Am Deeply Moved

They’re just kids from a small country that has no real influence in the world. But we came together–from many countries–to save them because of one universal belief: everyone’s child is MY child.  Our feelings are stirred because that could be our biological child, or a relative’s, or a friend’s.  At that point, nobody cares if the child lives in a nation that’s hostile to us or whose government or ideology is opposed to ours.  We don’t care about the color or religion of the child.  We just…care.

The Thailand cave rescue of those dozen kids and their soccer coach deeply moved me.  And it reminded me that we don’t need to be at each other’s throats in this world, that we can come together.  I hope that spirit lingers and spreads throughout the world.

Keep Track of Your Child

A terrible fear of any parent is turning around and seeing nothing but a crowd of strangers and not their child. I still remember the feeling, and my “child” is almost 33. I took all the precautions I could think of back then. But this video offers some that I didn’t think of. If you don’t have young children or grandchildren, please pass this on to friends who do. (Note: The sound may not work for you, but it’s only a musical background–no spoken words. The captions give the information.)

 

https://www.facebook.com/officialplayfull/videos/2069570226698205/?t=90

Help for the Weary Caregiver

Many of us find ourselves in the position of being a primary caregiver, whether to a child, a spouse, a parent, or a grandparent.  Yet, we need to keep our jobs, too.  This makes for a very full–and tiring–life.  But we do it out of love.

There are ways to ease our burden of love, though.  AARP has a few tips to do just that.  Learn about those tips at their Balancing Work & Caregiving.

Funny Things You Hear on Take Your Child to Work Day

What’s your reaction to today’s Take Your Child to Work Day? The kid loves it, and it’s great parent-child bonding. But how do people react? Read on. (Taken from Take Your Child To Work Day’ Quotes: 10 Funny Sayings You Can Share At The Office.)

“Sorry, but your child told your boss what you really think.”

“I actually look forward to Take Your Daughter to Work Day. I’m not great with kids, but I want to get better. Because I’m getting married. So I put on a bunch of extra candy on my desk so the kids will come talk to me. Like the witch in ‘Hansel and Gretel.’” — Pam Beasley from “The Office”

“I like kids, but this not a kids environment. This is like HBO, no limits. Who knows what I’m going to say, crazy stuff, and it is R-rated, it is not rated G. I am like Eddie Murphy in ‘Raw,’ and they are trying to make me into Eddie Murphy in ‘Daddy Daycare.’ Both great movies, but still.” — Michael Scott from “The Office”

“Now that I’ve seen you explain your job to your child, I realize how little you actually do.”

“Take your child to work day is a wonderful opportunity to pull the fire alarm and blame the children.”

“I noticed on take your kids to work day that your child was actually better at your job than you are.”

“I’m bringing my kids to work so they can see why I’m such a bitch when I get home.”

“Taking my kid to work will only further reinforce my fear that I can be easily replaced by a six year old.”

“Today our office will be overrun by smaller and even whinier versions of ourselves.”

“I refuse to take my kids to work because they’re so much more talented on those computer things than I am.”