When we are around someone with Alzheimer’s Disease, we often don’t know what to do or say. This boils it down to simple things that make a big difference.
Today’s Thursday Thought concerns words and how we use them. Anything that doesn’t make it through these three gates should never be spoken.
My friend Rebecca Arant thought this was worth passing on. So do I. Whoever created this list had talking with children in mind. But I can see it working with adults, too.
Roger Zelazny’s quote (yesterday’s Thursday Thought) got me thinking about words and their effect. Including how they’ve touched me and my friends. Here are my thoughts on the matter:
Stick and stones may break my bones but words can never hurt me is a silly childhood chant. When we grow up, we stop calling people names. Or do we? Hurtful names have crept into our everyday language and are so common that people don’t notice, except those people who are affected. Call me over-sensitive, but as someone who has a physical disability, I’m offended when I hear a stupid act referred to as “lame.” My friend has a similar reaction when that same act is called “gay.” And the person doing the act? He’s “so retarded.” An unexplainable or seemingly strange action is “schtzy,” “psycho,” or “manic depressive.” We talk about the poor as “less fortunate” or “them,” somehow different from—and not as good as—us, and we call others “illegals,” stripping them of flesh and blood. If we think before we speak, we can shred the sticks and crumble the stones that so often bruise us and return the dignity of humanity to others and ourselves.
Sticks and Stones may break my bones but words can never hurt me. Remember that childhood chant? How true is it? According to Roger Zelazny in today’s Thursday Thought quote, it’s words, not what may have actually been meant by them, that stick in our minds. Good reason to think before we speak.
“No word matters. But man forgets reality and remembers words.” — Roger Zelazny, Lord of Light
In case you missed it, the Marist Institute for Public Opinion came out with its list of what, according to their poll, were the most annoying words and phrases of 2016. They are
- Whatever [THE most irritating by far, the poll says]
- No offence, but
- You know, right
- I can’t even
- Huge [I wonder where that came from…]
No offence, but I can’t even imagine people thinking certain words and phrases make any huge difference in our lives, you know, right? Whatever.
This morning I woke up in a bit of a contrary mood. So, when I opened my email and saw what my friend Linda Younts had sent me, I had to pass it on to you. These from history are proof that we don’t have to return a dig with fists or anger, just a few words that, although the dig-er might not get at first, make us feel superior for a time.
Today’s Thursday Thought gives the Pope’s insight on how to observe Lent, and, by extension, how to live life.
POPE FRANCIS’ WORDS
Do you want to fast this Lent?
- Fast from hurting words and say kind words.
- Fast from sadness and be filled with gratitude.
- Fast from anger and be filled with patience.
- Fast from pessimism and be filled with hope.
- Fast from worries and trust in God.
- Fast from complaints and contemplate simplicity.
- Fast from pressures and be prayerful.
- Fast from bitterness and fill your heart with joy.
- Fast from selfishness and be compassionate to others.
- Fast from grudges and be reconciled.
- Fast from words and be silent so you can listen.
This very short Youtube video struck me on so many levels.