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Pedophilia & a Joke

I haven’t been this upset about a rumor in a long time. As a survivor of pedophilia (from two men), I have an idea of what it looks and feels like. (I’ll explain later.) When a person close to me said that Biden is a pedophile, I was shocked and, like most rumors going around, I researched it. It started when Don Trump Jr. did an Instagram meme in answer to Biden’s “See you later, alligator.” Trump’s response, was “In a while, pedophile.”  When called on it, Trump Tweeted that he was just “joking around” and included a laughing face.

Yes, I saw the so-called damning photos from swearing-in ceremonies, with Biden greeting families and giving extra attention to children. Inappropriate? Possibly. But in front of parents and on camera? Pedophiles enjoy what they’re doing and want to continue, meaning they don’t usually do it in public or on the public record. Instead, they groom the kids, get them ready to accept the sexual actions, carry them out in private, and secure their position by telling the child that it’s their little special secret because Grandma/Auntie/Whoever would be mad and both he and the child would get in trouble.

Now, why does this upset me so? Because pedophilia is serious and life-changing to a child.  It’s with the child throughout their life. We “get over it” so we can have a life.  But when it’s used as a joke or political ploy, it leads us back to our childhood, and the trivializing or advantage-taking of it hurts…hurts badly.

Being Tricky Today

Enjoy the fun of this April Fools Day, but, please, consider the person you’re pranking.  We’ve all been the butt of cruel April Fools jokes that have humiliated us, or watched jokes pulled on others that were obviously an expression of the jokester’s prejudices, using the day as an excuse.  These tricks not only feel bad but seem to give some legitimacy to cruelty and prejudices.

There are so many pranks that are harmless and so ingrained in our culture that few people are terribly embarrassed by them, like the Whoopie Cushion, switching the Push and Pull signs on a door, and putting hundreds of post-its all around someone’s office.

But something that is dangerous, will clearly mortify someone, makes a person look stupid, or is based on ethnics, gender, religion, or sexual orientation is not okay.  And that means no posting of the victim online, which makes it even worse.

So, go ahead and enjoy the day.  But be mindful of the person you’re pranking and how it will affect him or her.  Remember that your joke reflects who you are as a person.

Dumb Blondes

“HEAR THE ONE ABOUT THE DUMB BLONDE?” Jokes are all around us about blondes–and nationalities and ethnic groups and socio-economic groups, and…. If you find yourself smiling and passing them on, I invite you to consider this plan of action.

Is there a nationality, ethnic group, age group, or other category of people that you make jokes about or are fearful of or think will cheat or deceive you?  Examine your innermost thoughts and everyday behavior.  Now, write down at least 10 ways in which “those people” are similar to you.  Then, list examples of actual incidents in which one of “them” cheated, harmed, or scared you.  Remember what was done and said on both sides.

Now, stand apart from the situation and evaluate it.  Was there a misunderstanding

Good Fun?

If you don’t laugh, the jokester will shake his head at you and say, “Come on.  It’s all in good fun.”  Yet. the ethnic joke he’s told makes you cringe.   That’s your conscience responding to an attack on the human family.  At that moment, you are inwardly aware that someone’s dignity is being attacked.  Deep inside we know that such put-downs only feed bad feelings or stereotypes, keeping them alive.  They are hurtful rather than healing in our world.

A step toward protecting human dignity is to stop tolerating those insults.  There are two rules in doing this: 1) use a response that is natural and comfortable for you, and 2) make your point but don’t humiliate the person you’re speaking to.  For example, you might say, “That joke makes you sound prejudiced, and I know that can’t be true.”  Or, “My brother-in-law is Irish and he’s not a drunk.”  Sometimes people’s attention just needs to be drawn to what they are actually saying.

April Fool!

Tomorrow is April Fool’s Day weekend.  Enjoy the fun, but, please, consider the person you’re pranking.  We’ve all been the butt of cruel April Fools jokes that have humiliated us, or watched jokes pulled on others that were obviously an expression of the jokester’s prejudices, using the day as an excuse.  These tricks not only feel bad but seem to give some legitimacy to cruelty and bigotries. There are so many pranks that are harmless and so ingrained in our culture that few people are terribly embarrassed by them, like the whoopie cushion, switching the Push and Pull signs on a door, and putting hundreds of post-its all around someone’s office. But something that is dangerous, will clearly mortify someone, makes a person look stupid, or is based on ethnics, gender, religion, or sexual orientation is not okay.  And that means no posting of the victim online, which makes it even worse. So, go ahead and enjoy.  But be mindful of the person you’re pranking and how it will affect him or her.  Remember that your joke reflects who you are as a person.

 

“Suffer Fools Gladly”

Enjoy the fun of the day, but, please, consider the person you’re pranking.  We’ve all been the butt of cruel April Fools jokes that have humiliated us, or watched jokes pulled on others that were obviously an expression of the jokester’s prejudices, using the day as an excuse.  These tricks not only feel bad but seem to give some legitimacy to cruelty and prejudices.

There are so many pranks that are harmless and so ingrained in our culture that few people are terribly embarrassed by them, like the Whoopie Cushion, switching the Push and Pull signs on a door, and putting hundreds of post-its all around someone’s office.

But something that is dangerous, will clearly mortify someone, makes a person look stupid, or is based on ethnics, gender, religion, or sexual orientation is not okay.  And that means no posting of the victim online, which makes it even worse.

So, go ahead and enjoy the day.  But be mindful of the person you’re pranking and how it will affect him or her.  Remember that your joke reflects who you are as a person.

By the way, the title of today’s posting is from St. Paul.  If you want to know the context and meaning, you can find it at 2 Corinthians, verse 11:19.

 

Enjoying April Fool’s Day

Enjoy the fun of the day, but, please, consider the person you’re pranking.  We’ve all been the butt of cruel April Fools jokes that have humiliated us, or watched jokes pulled on others that were obviously an expression of the jokester’s prejudices, using the day as an excuse.  These tricks not only feel bad but seem to give some legitimacy to cruelty and prejudices.

There are so many pranks that are harmless and so ingrained in our culture that few people are terribly embarrassed by them, like the Whoopie Cushion, switching the Push and Pull signs on a door, and putting hundreds of post-its all around someone’s office.

But something that is dangerous, will clearly mortify someone, makes a person look stupid, or is based on ethnics, gender, religion, or sexual orientation is not okay.  And that means no posting of the victim online, which makes it even worse.

So, go ahead and enjoy the day.  But be mindful of the person you’re pranking and how it will affect him or her.  Remember that your joke reflects who you are as a person.