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The Transgendered-Bathroom Issue

Today I read that 650,000 people have signed a pledge to boycott Target because of their policy to allow anyone to use whichever bathroom corresponding to the sex they identify with.  Their reason they give for the boycott is to protect children from child molesters.

That made me re-think my understanding that transsexuals are not normally pedophiles.  I did a little research.  Here’s what I found.

Univ. of Michigan’s Prevention and Awareness Center:  “There are no statistics that support the idea that…transgendered individuals are more  likely to commit sexual assault or be sex offenders than heterosexuals. In fact, sex offenders are disproportionately  likely to be heterosexual men.”

Wisconsin Coalition Against Sexual Assault: “Another common myth about LGBT people is that they are child molesters. This is also untrue; in fact a groundbreaking study of sexual-abuse offenders concluded that a heterosexual adult is more likely to be a threat to children than a homosexual adult is.”

Advocates for Youth: “Most perpetrators of child sexual abuse are relatives or close acquaintances of the youth they target. ‘Stranger Danger’ — the notion that youth are at highest risk of sexual abuse from strangers — is a widely-accepted myth that continues to drive public policy around this issue.”

(Note: I tried to cite neutral sources who have a reputation for being non-biased and statistically accurate in their studies. I found many others, who had agendas to promote, which I don’t cite here.)

What I’m trying to say is, each of us has the right to follow our moral or religious codes, some of which say that a transsexual is “unnatural” or “sinful,” or whatever. If that case, we should own those beliefs and fight our battle on those grounds rather than on false assertions that we’re simply trying to protect our children.

On a side note, as a person with a disability, I’ve used unisex/handicap bathrooms, all my life and am quite comfortable with them.

 

 

We All Earn Our Pride

It’s the season of Gay Pride and Disability Pride and Italian Pride, etc.  I trouble with all of that.  I don’t think that an accident of birth or some other factor I had no control over is pride that I’ve earned.  Why should I be proud that I’m a woman, heterosexual, disabled, white, a victim of a crime in my childhood, or anything else I didn’t chose, earn, or accomplish? Yes, I admit to some pride when it comes to my learning to adapt to negative aspects of the above–and to some shame when I didn’t adapt in an honorable way.  I feel pride, though, for things that I worked for and accomplished, or ways I made a positive difference in this world: as a teacher, writer, mother, wife, friend, advocate, volunteer, and good example.

Everyone has something in life to overcome, be it homelessness, un/under employment, poverty, bad parenting, illness, lack of education, a disability (physical, intellectual, emotional, age-related), extreme shyness….  If I’m caught in poverty, I don’t feel Poverty Pride; if I’m able to help myself out of poverty, I’m entitled to feel pride of success.  Apply this to all situations.

In other words, it isn’t what we’re born into or what happens to us that earns us pride.  It’s how we handle life itself–and interact with those sharing this Earth–that lets us carry the ultimate sign: “Human Pride.”

 

 

Gay Boy Scouts

If a Scout didn’t acknowledge that he’s gay, whether or not he’s sexually active, how would the leaders or troop know his orientation?  If he’s just as honorable as other troop members, doing what is his best for God and country, obeying the Scout Law as best he can (he and the others ARE human and ARE kids with limitations)?  If he strives to help others, keep himself physically strong, mentally awake, and, within the limits other young Scouts have (background, socio-economic factors, family life experiences), morally straight?

It’s probably this last one that Scout leadership feels a gay boy can’t comply with.  If so, then any Scout–homosexual or heterosexual—who is having sexual urgings should be banned, or all should be admitted until they show they can’t abide by the Scout Oath and Law.

Why is it impossible for a gay youngster to be Trustworthy, Loyal, Helpful, Friendly, Courteous, Kind, Obedient, Cheerful, Thrifty, Brave, Clean, and Reverent (the Scout law)?  Certainly, generations of closeted gay Scouts have passed the test.

Is Scout leadership afraid that a gay boy will seduce others or have their gay-ness rub off onto others?  If so, they don’t trust the heterosexual Scouts to be adhering to the Oath and Law.  Those Scout-failures, then, should be kicked out.

Or maybe the fear is that a gay Scout might organize a sex-orgy at a Jamboree?